If you're guilty of any of these, it's time to change!
Tomorrow hardly shows up for things that can be done today, if today has lazed away. Take travel. In three days you see all of Singapore, including a day at Sentosa. But if you migrated there with your job, the ‘new city’ allure has already died before you’ve crossed immigration; such is the magic of time availability. Letting time fly by without getting anything done is the biggest sin of a dreary life. Like Stephen King says, “Get busy living or get busy dying.”
Human mind is a repository of memories; all things, good and bad, which have come to pass. Births and deaths, kisses and misses, mugged and hugged by a stranger, goof ups and fuck ups, laugh out loud moments, lost on deserted highway in middle of night (with fuel gauge dangling precariously over ‘E’) moments. Unfortunately it’s the minds job to keep processing thoughts (it’s made that way). And when it is not gainfully employed, it has these memories to fall back on. If at this point, only negative memories are relived, thus becomes the outlook towards life. Lo and behold, the memory is no more the past, it becomes the future. All things coming your way (planned or unplanned) are already wearing the cloak of death, misses, mugging, fuck ups and lost.
If you can’t stand to look into yourself, have a quiet conversation with your conscience, you are doomed to live a pretentious life. Talking to yourself isn’t melancholic musings where you hunt for your spot under the sun. Your gut already knows that, and has made it known to you. Honesty to yourself is sleuthing into your past and fact finding. Simply put, if you dream of being a novelist, how often do you write? Leaving aside the excuse of bills paying job taking up all of your sad life, what did you do when small windows of time opened up. Drink yourself silly, hit on girls and were hit back, football match between countries you didn’t even know existed, socialised for hours on facebook and twitter? For sake of your sanity some ‘goofing away’ time is important, but if every given opportunity disappeared quicker than smoke in white sky, then your latent desire has nothing to do with your dreary life.
We have a stand for everything. Subconsciously, that is. Even what should be cooked for dinner (Not that we should make a fuss about it all the time). But often we let the sleeping dog lie for so long that there is no fight left in it. Just a growling dog which people have learnt to ignore till the point it becomes rabid mad. Surprise yourself. Steer your group’s decision on what to do over the weekend. Tell your boss you cannot work on weekend. Firmly hold the hand of the girl you want to marry. It is your life, and as long as your action or inaction hurt nobody, you go right ahead and do what is right for you. Get that soapbox and take a stand.
Have you heard the YMCA song which goes ‘No man can make it alone’? Whether it’s work or fun or family, we rely on others to a large extent. We are social beings and isolation drives us insane. If we see everything that comes our way through a prism of suspicion, it’s going to stifle our growth. And nothing is drearier than stilted growth.
Have you heard the famous Steve Jobs story of making the best possible hammer in the world? This goes back to 1977, when a cardiologist named Geroge Diamond saw Apple II, fell in love with the machine, and used it to write a small medical program which diagnosed coronary disease. Inspired by what he had achieved, he contacted Steve Jobs and asked him to consider working on an elaborate medical application which would lead to a computer on every doctor’s desk in United States. This was an opportunity for Apple at a time when computer was still seen as a giant calculator by the masses. But Steve Jobs turned him down. His reasoning: “You have to understand. This (the computer) is something that nobody in the world yet understands. I can’t be distracted. I’m trying to make the best hammer I can make, the best hammer in the world. You can use my hammer to tear something down, or you can use it to build something up. I really don’t care what you do with my hammer. I just want to make the best possible hammer. And what you are doing is a wonderful bit of construction, but to me it’s a distraction.”
He damn well made the best hammer.
Success is a fleet footed deer which can only be captured by the most tenacious pursuer. You have to be on her tail all the while, till she wears down and is in your grasp. Giving insipid chases is only insulting her. Dreary life waits up for crummy, half baked efforts, not success. Go after her. Go hard, go nonstop. Let her tire, but not you.
It’s stupid not doing the crazy chicken dance (or twerking, depends which part of the world you are in) when everyone else is, because you’ll look like a fool. To the drunks clucking away in the strobe lights, you look like a fool standing stoically in the corner. You’ll look more foolish standing in the corner to the drunks in the strobe light. Let’s understand one thing, every human being is good only in a handful of things (and that’s a stretch; most people are good in no more than two things). But if you’re only going to do what you’re good at, you’re passing up on more than ninety nine percent of the world’s enjoyable feast. And that is very dreary life indeed.
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